Dating Single Mothers?
Dating single mothers in Colombia may be very different from English-speaking countries.
Will I always be the last one considered, after the kid and probably even the dog?
In a word, NO!
A man who truly earns the respect as head of the household will be #1 in all considerations.
In English-speaking cultures, if you were to date a single mother, you will quickly find that as a "strong and independent woman" she has been taught that "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle." Then why is she dating you?
First Scenario...
When I first spent time in Colombia, I was mostly dating women in their 40's and 50's. Ladies in this age bracket frequently had a grown child who lived in another city. This, of course, doesn't need to be an impediment to a relationship at all. When I met those young people, they were always respectful and I never had conflict with a single one.
Second Scenario...
I have two biological children, and two adopted ones, in North America. Adopting a child was not a new experience for me. When I met my wife, she had a 4-year-old daughter who had never known her father and he lived in another country. I am the only father she has ever known. If it had been a 14-year-old child, it might have been a very different challenge, but it depends on the relationship that you can create with that child/children. In my case, it has worked out beautifully for years.
When I told my wife that I wanted to move back to Medellin she said, "You are my husband, and I will go with you wherever you think is best for us." She has an Aunt, Uncle, cousins and two brothers in Tolima. They are welcome to come visit and she can go visit them. As head of the household, I decide what is best for my family.
Only you can decide if you are comfortable adopting/raising a child.
The point you should take from here is that in Latino households, if you have earned your position as the man of the house and you take care of your family, you will always get the primary consideration. So while you might not consider dating single mothers in your home country, you may want to explore whether it offers new possibilities in Colombia!
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